Here's the Story!

When I started this blog it was to, as you all know, help facilitate the adoption process because after three years in LDS Family Services' system we have had very few bites of interest.

Well, just a few days after I posted on Facebook that I started this blog, we had someone tell us she was interested in us as adoptive parents for the twins she was carrying. (The comment might still be on the blog; you can scroll down and find the original) Justin and I felt right away that this was not on the level. There were several red flags such as her name, twins, timing of the birth, and the fact she didn't want to tell us who referred her to us.

We decided to consult our caseworker. She also believed it was a scam and felt that we should proceed with caution. She would hate for us to miss out on an opportunity if by some chance it was real. She gave us a few probing questions to ask with emphasis on asking about which agency this birth mother was with. We asked the questions and the flood gates opened with all kids of information to which total strangers should not be privy. However, she avoided the question about the agency. I sent her another e-mail that only talked about LDS Family Services with their address and phone number. Her very next e-mail stated that she didn't know she needed to sign with an agency (sounds like Hollywood. . ."agency"). Anyway, she also said that she wasn't feeling very well, rather strange and that she had an appointment with her doctor later that day. I wished her luck with hopes that the LDSFS could set up a meeting.The next e-mail was less positive. She said she called the LDSFS, but the doctor had put her on bedrest, and we would have to get to know each other through e-mail.

I don't know if the rest of you can see it, but at this point she is setting things up for a miscarriage. ( just a hint of sarcasm of course you can see it!) I sent her some words of encouragement. It was this time in the scam that I wrote on Facebook about it. All the while thinking this girl's history sounded very similar to a former student's. But, I ignored the idea until I got a comment back from this former student telling me that it was she that referred this birth mother to us, and she was upset by it and would block her from FB.

This former student a year ago contacted me and told me that her sister recently found out that she was pregnant and was considering placing her baby for adoption and that my former student immediately thought of me. I honestly thought that maybe this was the reason I had the job in Magna. That I was sent to CHS to help start my family. I thought it was a blessing. Former Student asked if it would be okay if her sister requested to be my friend on FB. Well, of course, I said yes and friended them both. Sadly though, Sister posted on FB several months later about this amazing baby shower she had for her baby boy. I decided at that time to unfriend both of the girls. I didn't know that if you unfriend someone they still can see your updates; you just don't see theirs.

This former student started requesting to be my friend again soon after the post about the blog. I ingored all the requests. She would comment though. The tip of the iceburg was that she actually volunteered to be our surrogate mother. At the same time, the phony birth mother told us who referred her to us, and it was the former student of mine. She also said that she miscarried the twins and was heading back to Savannah. Are any of you surprised? I wasn't. We believe, with no proof- just a gut feeling, that the phony birthmother and former student are the same person. I was freaked out though about this former student who seems  so badly to want to be a part of my life. She even asked to come visit me at work and bring her step-daughter to meet me.

I am sorry, but that is just weird, right? Am I overreacting? I blocked this former student from FB and this is why the blog is private now. I went to the administrators of my school and told them about what was happening and that I did not want to see this girl. She gave me a picture her senior year. I have it still and showed it to the admin and to the school police officer. The school cop was willing to contact this girl and tell her to leave me alone, but I felt I had to formally do it myself first. After trying to secure Facebook and my blog, I have, tonight, officially gave notice to this former student to leave me alone. I tried to be gentle, but how gentle can you be when you are telling someone to stay out of your life especially if he or she feels they are trying to do something "good" for you? Well, it will stop or it will escalate. Hopefully, it will stop. There are more details, but this gives you a really good idea of what happened. Crazy, right?

Quick update more later

Okay, friends we have had a really weird roller coaster ride this week. We have had someone trying to scam us with a fake adoption. I am being cyber -stalked by someone. I am hoping to have blocked every point where I am accessible. When I know for sure I will be more specific. Don't worry dear friends. Justin and I are not emotionally fragile. We knew it was not on the level from the very beginning.

My sister and niece came to visit me this weekend. I am so excited to hang out with them so this will be a short entry today. Justin is all about spoiling our niece. He cooks her favorite meals, and he is getting ready to spoil her more tomorrow with shopping. Wahoo, Shopping with Justin is awesome!

CRAZY TIMES

The last few days have been crazy busy. Justin and I have been fighting illnesses that refuse to abate. Blast my stupid cough, why do my lungs hate me?!?! I have been grading essays, and that takes some. It may be a terrible thing, but I almost appreciate it at grading time that students don't turn in the essays. If only I could teach writing without having the students write. Except it doesn't actually work that way. Blast it all!

Having a student teacher has helped. Except he is teaching my favorite subject, theatre. I still have the English. Oh, well. I have a job that is fulfilling, and for all of my complaining about it, I like what I do and I enjoy the students and my colleagues.

Justin made cookies today so I am going to let myself enjoy one more then stop. We may have to take some to the neighbors. I think my cookies are delicious! 

I am a Whitney Houston fan, and I always have wished to sing like her. She was amazing and I am crushed that her life ended. Really there is no one who can compare to her. She made some really bad choices. I blame Bobby Brown, but that is the Tabloids speaking. Why can't famous people stay away from drugs and alcohol? There are so many in the news with problems that stem from addiction. I guess they become conditioned to think they are invincible. What keeps some grounded and others misguided?  Its too bad to hear about Whitney Houston, she was one of a kind.

Other big news, I got a replacment frame for my Jeep wrangler project.  Now I can spend tons of time in the garage!! 

SICK AND TIRED

Well, so much for fighting off the dreaded disease. I am sick and frustrated by it. It is like my first year of teaching all over again. I was sick all the time that first year and this year I have been sick several times. It is really driving me crazy. One of my students said maybe it is a celebration of teaching for 14 years. Nice. For the germs I guess it is. I'd rather celebrate 14 years of teaching with a raise or winning a million dollars. Right now all I can say is thank heaven for aloe tissues. My poor nose would never survive without them.

 Well, I have a bizillion essays to grade. I better get to it before I run out of energy tonight. Cheers to all. Have a fabulous night!

Happy Ground Hog Day

Happy Ground Hog Day! So the ground hog saw his shadow, but it isn't a big deal since the winter so far has been super mild! 

Tonight we prepared for the Super Bowl by doing a practice try on the fried chicken in Justin's Turkey Fryer. It worked out well. We had some seriously delicious fried chicken.

Justin is getting better from his creeping crud. I think I might be getting it. I truly love my husband. He shares everything with me. :)

I have essays to begin grading. I have seen a huge improvement over this school year in their writing. I am really proud of what my students have accomplished even if some of their parents like to tell me I am mean and like to set my students up for failure. They say some really hurtful things. I think it is funny that they actually believe I got into this profession to rip children to shreds. It really unleashes the wrath within me and I have to take a time out before responding to their bold accusations via e-mail. They do not dare say it to my face. The world of technology emboldens people with anonymity. Cowards is what I call them. Face to face they have to learn to behave, but hiding behind a computer screen apparently gives them license to be cruel.

Oh well. Have a fabulous evening. I am going to put myself to be to try to fight off any dreaded disease they maybe trying to flatten me.

Ho Hum

So yesterday I get home from rehearsal and then rush to Costco to get some supplies. Justin texts me to say that I had just stood up my VT. I cannot believe I forgot our appointment. I hurried like a mad woman so I could get home. I got home and she came back for a lovely visit. Then I went to bed. I am still suffering from the weekend of theatrical high. I don't have much to report today except my sister and niece are coming to visit. My niece is turning 12 soon and it is her birthday trip.  I am so excited. Justin is excited too. He is preparing to spoil her.

I feel like I should write more, but I can't really think of much to say. I won't have much time as tomorrow I have essays coming in, and I won't have time to blog, but I just might need a break from the grading. I usually have much to say after grading essays. Usually I am whinning about the fact that I am a failure as a teacher because my students can't write. Whoa is me; oh whoa is me!

Well, good night all. I shall write once again.