Here's the Story!

When I started this blog it was to, as you all know, help facilitate the adoption process because after three years in LDS Family Services' system we have had very few bites of interest.

Well, just a few days after I posted on Facebook that I started this blog, we had someone tell us she was interested in us as adoptive parents for the twins she was carrying. (The comment might still be on the blog; you can scroll down and find the original) Justin and I felt right away that this was not on the level. There were several red flags such as her name, twins, timing of the birth, and the fact she didn't want to tell us who referred her to us.

We decided to consult our caseworker. She also believed it was a scam and felt that we should proceed with caution. She would hate for us to miss out on an opportunity if by some chance it was real. She gave us a few probing questions to ask with emphasis on asking about which agency this birth mother was with. We asked the questions and the flood gates opened with all kids of information to which total strangers should not be privy. However, she avoided the question about the agency. I sent her another e-mail that only talked about LDS Family Services with their address and phone number. Her very next e-mail stated that she didn't know she needed to sign with an agency (sounds like Hollywood. . ."agency"). Anyway, she also said that she wasn't feeling very well, rather strange and that she had an appointment with her doctor later that day. I wished her luck with hopes that the LDSFS could set up a meeting.The next e-mail was less positive. She said she called the LDSFS, but the doctor had put her on bedrest, and we would have to get to know each other through e-mail.

I don't know if the rest of you can see it, but at this point she is setting things up for a miscarriage. ( just a hint of sarcasm of course you can see it!) I sent her some words of encouragement. It was this time in the scam that I wrote on Facebook about it. All the while thinking this girl's history sounded very similar to a former student's. But, I ignored the idea until I got a comment back from this former student telling me that it was she that referred this birth mother to us, and she was upset by it and would block her from FB.

This former student a year ago contacted me and told me that her sister recently found out that she was pregnant and was considering placing her baby for adoption and that my former student immediately thought of me. I honestly thought that maybe this was the reason I had the job in Magna. That I was sent to CHS to help start my family. I thought it was a blessing. Former Student asked if it would be okay if her sister requested to be my friend on FB. Well, of course, I said yes and friended them both. Sadly though, Sister posted on FB several months later about this amazing baby shower she had for her baby boy. I decided at that time to unfriend both of the girls. I didn't know that if you unfriend someone they still can see your updates; you just don't see theirs.

This former student started requesting to be my friend again soon after the post about the blog. I ingored all the requests. She would comment though. The tip of the iceburg was that she actually volunteered to be our surrogate mother. At the same time, the phony birth mother told us who referred her to us, and it was the former student of mine. She also said that she miscarried the twins and was heading back to Savannah. Are any of you surprised? I wasn't. We believe, with no proof- just a gut feeling, that the phony birthmother and former student are the same person. I was freaked out though about this former student who seems  so badly to want to be a part of my life. She even asked to come visit me at work and bring her step-daughter to meet me.

I am sorry, but that is just weird, right? Am I overreacting? I blocked this former student from FB and this is why the blog is private now. I went to the administrators of my school and told them about what was happening and that I did not want to see this girl. She gave me a picture her senior year. I have it still and showed it to the admin and to the school police officer. The school cop was willing to contact this girl and tell her to leave me alone, but I felt I had to formally do it myself first. After trying to secure Facebook and my blog, I have, tonight, officially gave notice to this former student to leave me alone. I tried to be gentle, but how gentle can you be when you are telling someone to stay out of your life especially if he or she feels they are trying to do something "good" for you? Well, it will stop or it will escalate. Hopefully, it will stop. There are more details, but this gives you a really good idea of what happened. Crazy, right?